Your mind is a very powerful tool, positive thinking can help you overcome a lot of obstacles in life whereas negative thoughts only serve to hold you down and keep you from achieving anything. This is why you need to be very careful to avoid toxic thoughts.
Your triumph over a difficult situation has very little to do with what actually happened and more about how you perceived the situation.
Here are toxic thoughts you need to let go of immediately
1. Thinking it’s too late to start over
Change is hard and we are all afraid of the unknown and getting out of our comfort zone. This is why people choose to stay and stick to what they know.
Whether you want to change your career at 26, want to go back to school or the way you want to move across the country to pursue your passion. The truth is there is no such thing as too late to do something, the right time is when you decide to do it.
So don’t be afraid to make a serious change just because you fear it’s too late for you.
2. Thinking you can change people
It could be that guy who keeps flirting with everyone, the selfish friend who drains you or that colleague who is downright mean; you need to accept that you cannot change them.
We all have the ability to become better people; however, you can’t stay in a toxic environment just because you think you can mold someone to fit what you want them to be. This will never happen because people don’t change, their priorities do. So unless someone wants to, they won’t stop flirting, being mean or being selfish.
3. Thinking your relationship status will complete you
It doesn’t matter whether you are single or in a relationship, your happiness depends solely on you. So whatever your relationship status, you shouldn’t let it determine your worth or happiness.
Furthermore, if you have to be in a relationship to be happy, then you need to re-evaluate your outlook on relationships.
4. Thinking the world is out to get you
The truth of the matter is that life is hard; however, thinking that you are a victim will only make things worse. Yes, it’s unfair that you didn’t get that promotion even though you are qualified but you shouldn’t think that the world is out to get you.
Instead, try and come up with ways to ensure that the next time you don’t miss out on the opportunity. Learn from your failures and work towards ensuring you don’t fail again. This is how you overcome life’s obstacles.
5. Thinking there’s only one right way
There is no one way to achieve success. What works for me might not work for you and everyone has their own pace.
There are people who finished school at 23 and end up spending three years looking for a job and other who finished at 26 and got jobs immediately.
We all take different paths to success and that is okay. You need to stop limiting yourself to only one path.
Your state of mind determines your outlook on life. Having all these toxic thoughts only serves to prevent you from achieving the level of success you should be. You need to ensure that you don’t let such thoughts keep you from achieving your goals.